If you want to change your old negative habits and turn them into really positive ones you will have to face change. For some of us it is hard to change, yet if you take steps to learn ways to change you will find positive reflections.
“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
This happens because we are plagued by a world filled with opinions, philosophy, theories, suspicion, guesses, and conclusions. You have to learn how to find your own truth before you can improve your life.
What are some of the things I can do to use the power of positive thinking and change my bad ways to good ways?
This is going to be completely up to you, but it takes you to try out new tactics that helps you to grow. No one can change you, but you. when your ready to do this take full control, ask for help and advice from family and friends, don’t every feel that you are on your own, but it will be down to you to make the change. You can learn to build the inner gifts you have within you. The qualities you have include self-esteem, confidence, trust, self-awareness, self-motivation and so on. each quality you can build on to improve your personal well being. You have to figure out what works for you.
For one thing, you need to decide what is making you do what you do and figure out a way to do the right thing. So if it is the people you hang out with maybe you should find some one else to hang with. Maybe people from a support group or a group from your church can help you find ways to change your habits. The first things you have to do is stop lying to your self and to make those changes to your life that will give you a positive stroke. You have to learn how to make good decisions by evaluating the consequences.
You will be surprised how easy it can be. For instance, would you allow a drunk person to drive you home? If you would then you made a bad decision that could cost you your life, or have you tossed in jail. If you are sober, why not drive the drunk person home yourself.
Positive thinking includes friends and family. If your family members are dragging you down, or your friends are holding you back, you have to make a choice. The choice may include talking to them about how you feel and you are making a real effort to be positive, remember we only have one life so living each day to its full is a real joy.
Remember our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that form our self-image and our world-image.
Try to develop new skills that guide you to remove bad habits, try using your conscious mind. When you observe, listen and hear the things around you, you learn more than you would reading a book. Observation is a wonderful skill to practice. Observation, includes self-awareness. Stand back and take a hard look at you. Do not persecute or self-judge, rather look for ways to make your life better.
In his ground-breaking book, A Primer in Positive Psychology, Christopher Petersen, PhD, says, “…optimism has demonstrable benefits, and pessimism has drawbacks.” He goes on to say, “…optimism…has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to perseverance and effective problem solving; to academic, athletic, military, occupational, and political success; to popularity; to good health; and even to long life and freedom from trauma.”
Questions You May Want Ask Yourself
Do you smoke?
Smoking is the number one reason that people get lung cancer. Smoking is not good for you. If you can quite on your own, great, yet if you need help, ask.
Do you drink excessively?
Do you know the side effects of drinking excessively? If not visit the Internet and learn more about what alcohol can do to you. On the other hand, if you can control alcohol, drink three drinks per week. Studies has shown that drinking three alcohol beverages weekly can reduce the risks of heart disease, Alzheimer’s disease and so on. If you take drugs, you want to find a way to take control of your life also.
Practice the positive thinking approach outlined above and you’ll find it soon comes naturally. You may be amazed to realize that you simply feel better with a positive attitude.
